Integrative Healing: Energy and Spiritual Therapy, Coaching and Well-being Newsletter (Fall, 2001, Issue 54)

by Philip H. Friedman, Ph.D http://www.integrativehelp.com/ http://www.philipfriedman.com/ http://www.energyspirit.com/ You can read this newsletter on the internet at: http://www.integrativehelp.com/newsletter.asp You can email me at: integrativehelp@aol.com To subscribe to the FREE Integrative Healing: Energy and Spiritual Therapy, Coaching and Well-Being Newsletter send an email message to: CreatingWellBeing-on@lists.webvalence.com and put subscribe in the subject line. (c) All rights reserved WELCOME TO THE: “INTEGRATIVE HEALING: ENERGY AND SPIRITUAL THERAPY, COACHING AND WELL-BEING NEWSLETTER”. I want to thank the 1000 plus members of this List and everyone who has ordered my book, tapes, manual and the Friedman Scales from my new web site at: http://www.integrativehelp.com/books_tapes.html Secure credit orders are being processed very competently through the Wellnet-Secure Ordering Service. CONTENTS: 1. WHAT’S NEW: FRIEDMAN HEALING TECHNIQUES A) ACT (renamed the ACTIVE CHOICE TECHNIQUE) B) CART (CREATING AND RECEIVING TECHNIQUE) C) HEART (HEALING AND RELEASE TECHNIQUE); D) LIGHT (LIGHT IMAGERY GRATEFUL HEART TECHNIQUE). E) MATT (renamed the MIRACLE ACTIVATION TRIGGER TECHNIQUE) F) TASTE (renamed the TRIGGER AND SOFT TOUCH TECHNIQUE) 2. WHAT ELSE IS NEW: A) ORION HEALING TECHNIQUES; THETA HEALING TECHNIQUES or 12 STRAND DNA ACTIVATION TECHNIQUES B) LOVE BANK AND RELATIONSHIP BALANCE C) INTEGRATIVE MARITAL AND RELATIONSHIP THERAPY AND HEALING 3. WORKSHOPS, SEMINARS, STUDY GROUP and PARTY QUOTES: (from ENERGY BLESSINGS FROM THE STARS: 7 INITIATIONS by Virginia Essence and Irving Furst) “The chakra system and the meridian system exist in different vibrational spaces. (p.28) It is very important to realize that two centers can occupy the same geometrical space and be in entirely different vibrational space. (p.29) A shakti is a subtle energy that has been programmed to behave intelligently either by God/Source or by an intermediary who is so spiritually evolved that they can act as a pure pipeline for the divine mind. The word shakti expresses the concept that energy is God in action...There isn’t even an English word that describes this concept...I always use it (shakti) to mean a subtle energy that behaves intelligently....a shakti is specialized form of subtle energy.( p.44)... a shakti is a subtle energy not a physical energy ...combining knowledge of the chakras and meridians with work on any of these other energy centers, produces results that far exceed what can be done by working with the chakras and meridians alone. (p.46). Shakti is not anyone’s personal energy. Shakti acts at all levels of reality... physical and biological and personal and spiritual evolution. Shakti’s are associated with different initiations such as the ones discussed in this book.” 1. WHAT’S NEW FRIEDMAN HEALING TECHNIQUES: These 6 powerful Healing Techniques that I developed can be found on my web site at: http://www.integrativehelp.com/healing_techniques.html Some of them are substantial modifications, expansions or creative enhancements of other well known techniques in the field and, as always, I appreciate my colleagues whose work preceded or complements mine. 1. ACTIVE CHOICE TECHNIQUE (ACT) formerly called the ACUPRESSURE, CHAKRA TECHNIQUE is a systematic energy and spiritual/transpersonal technique for reducing psychological and emotional distress. First, the client puts his/her attention on the emotional distress/trauma. Then the client puts one hand on his/her heart and one hand on one of 6 other areas of their body (near a chakra) such as the solar plexus/stomach area. The client then engages in 7 other steps with their hands placed on the heart and one or another body area while repeating a series of affirmations and statements of gratitude designed to heal not only the origins and location of the problem but also any unforgiveness/grievances involving the problem toward oneself or others. 2. CREATING AND RECEIVING TECHNIQUE (CART) is a specific energy empowerment process for resolving emotional, psychological and spiritual problems. First, the client engages in a gentle breathing technique while placing his/her hands on the chest and solar plexus (near 2 energy chakras). Next, with his/her hands still on the chest and solar plexus area (chakra energy centers) and eyes closed, the client repeats a series of affirmations that releases the past, affirms the present, acknowledges their true Self and re-empowers them. Then, the client makes 10 fundamental choices concerning their health, happiness, peace, freedom, forgiveness and their lives and visualizes creating, allowing and receiving what they want to happen in their lives. 3. HEALING AND RELEASE TECHNIQUE (HEART) is an energy and spiritual/ transpersonal technique designed to alleviate emotional distress and help connect clients to their heart. The client first discovers areas of emotional, mental and/or spiritual barriers and limiting beliefs/patterns. The client then touches/holds 2 places on his/her heart and solar plexus (energy chakra areas) which establishes a positive and negative cue. Then using the visual imagery of light, a garbage can and a balloon, the client dissolves the negative cue and releases/removes the emotional distress. The client then visualizes the light coming down through his/her head and entering and circulating in the heart and later the body as a source of love, compassion, wisdom and infinite intelligence that generates healing and peace. Another version uses light imagery in the heart to heal relationships. 4. LIGHT IMAGERY GRATEFUL HEART TECHNIQUE (LIGHT) is an energy and spiritual/transpersonal technique designed to focus on positive psychological strengths, resources, assets, beliefs/attitudes and perceptions that facilitate healing and growth. As an extension/expansion of the HEART technique the healer guides clients into bringing the imagery of light into his/her heart while placing one or both hands on the heart area (chakra). Then the healer asks the client to experience all the things, people, events and circumstances in his/her life, past and present that the client is grateful for and/or feels blessed by. The client is then encouraged to focus on these experiences on a regular basis, since what you focus on expands. 5. MIRACLE ACTIVATION TRIGGER TECHNIQUE (MATT) formerly called the MIRACLE ACUPRESSURE TAPPING TECHNIQUE is a systematic method of treating psychological distress using the energy meridians of the body. First, the client repeats certain affirmations including “I am entitled to miracles” while rubbing gently on a point on the upper chest (psychological uplifter). The client is then asked to think about the problem (anxiety, anger, guilt, depression, etc.) while tapping on 8 acupoints on the face, neck and chest and then engaging in deep breathing. Then the client engages in a forgiveness procedure (self/others) while tapping on 2 points under the arm. Finally the client taps on the center of the chest while engaging in forgiveness, healing and peaceful affirmations. 6. TRIGGER AND SOFT TOUCH ELICITATION TECHNIQUE (TASTE) formerly called the TAP AND SOFT TOUCH ENERGY TECHNIQUE is a systematic method of treating psychological distress using the energy meridians of the body. First, the client is asked to rub gently on a location on the upper chest (psychological uplifter). The client is then asked to think about the problem (anxiety, anger, guilt, depression, etc.) while first tapping on 8 acupoints on the face, neck and chest and then touching/ holding each point while taking some deep breaths. During both processes he/she says certain healing affirmations. Some times the client hums a tune, counts out loud and moves their eyes while touching/holding/tapping one acupoint or engages in a tapping and comprehensive forgiveness and choice procedure. These techniques are described in MY INTEGRATIVE HEALING MANUAL http://www.integrativehelp.com/books_tapes.html and can, of course, be learned more thoroughly in my workshops and seminars. (see below). Three of the techniques, MATT, TASTE and HEART, for example, were used with 2 different woman who had been sexually molested by a male friend or relative, 5 to 20 years ago. In both cases the hurt, anger, fear, disgust, shame etc. were cleared up in 1 to 2 therapy sessions using these powerful healing techniques. The SUDS (subjective units of distress) levels decreased from 8, 9 and 10 on various emotions to 1 very rapidly in both cases despite intense feelings by these woman. Moreover, the problems did not reoccur, and the flashbacks, dreams and avoidance reactions also disappeared. Of course, I had developed an excellent rapport with both these women first and conducted thorough clinical interviews prior to using these techniques with them. Although very effective with these 2 woman the use of these techniques may or may not be appropriate with other similar abuse problems as everyone is unique. I have also used these 6 healing techniques successfully with auto accident traumas, falls and injuries and other personal and interpersonal fears, hurts, disappointments, anger etc... ORION HEALING TECHNIQUES also known as the THETA HEALING TECHNIQUES or sometimes the 12 STRAND DNA ACTIVATION TECHNIQUES Recently I had the opportunity to spend 3 days at a workshop with Vianna Stibel and her husband Guy Stibel learning these exciting and unusual healing techniques that were developed to facilitate healing from the level of theta brain waves and God/Christ consciousness. This approach assumes that we have the ability/power to command God or a higher power to activate healing at 4 levels: core belief; history, soul and genetic, by first releasing, letting go and resolving limiting beliefs, emotions and patterns, by sending these to the light and then by replacing them with healthier beliefs, emotions and patterns right down to the DNA level of our being. It also assumes that we are capable of activating the Vitality and Health chromosomes of our body to facilitate transformative changes at the core of our Being. In the workshop we also learned new methods of scanning the body for energy imbalances that needed correction and healing and tools for creating a positive future. Vianna Stibels 2 books, “Go Up and Seek God” and “Go Up and Work with God” are fascinating reading and discuss many of the techniques practiced in the workshop. Vianna’s husband, Guy, the man from Montana as she often refers to him, (Vianna, herself, is from Idaho) led us through a potent American Indian chant and guided imagery process at the end of the workshop and also applied essential oils to our feet before and during many of the healing and imagery exercises. Vianna not only had us do readings and healings on our selves, each other and the group from a place of unconditional love, she also had us using muscle testing to discover limiting core beliefs and emotions. Vianna is not only a skilled intuitive healer but also well trained as a naturopath, so nutrition is a significant part of her work as well. Overall the 3 days were well spent learning a new integrative energy and spiritual approach to assessment and healing. I will be experimenting with its range of use and effectiveness in the months to come and will probably teach at least some of the material in my own workshops and seminars. Another book I read recently that is related to the work of Vianna Stibel is “Change Your DNA, Change Your Life” by Robert Gerard, Ph.D. Robert Gerard is a psychologist from California, who learned Vianna’s approach a few years ago and went on to develop his own variations of that approach. His approach works with the “Pulsar Star” and ‘Soul Bubble” imagination exercises to activate theta brain waves and works with 4 levels of DNA activation. There are excellent diagrams in his book. Anne Brewer, in her book: “The Power of 12: Achieving 12 Strand DNA Consciousness” describes in detail her unusual experiences during the process of her consciousness expansion. Her approach is more intensive and involved than Vianna Stibels or Robert Gerard’s and clearly not for everyone. Still, the book and ideas were intriguing reading and may foreshadow the positive changes to come for us humans on the the planet in the years ahead. LOVE BANK AND RELATIONSHIP BALANCE Many people have used the metaphor of LOVE BANK to describe marital and intimate relationships. The idea is that deposits into the LOVE BANK that meet the emotional and relationship needs of ones partner increases the “emotional bank account” and withdrawals from the LOVE BANK that detract from the emotional and relationship needs of ones partner decreases the “emotional bank account”. Obviously, early in the development of an intimate relationship, during the courting, engagement and early marital stages the LOVE BANK is usually high. Later in the relationship the LOVE BANK may rise and fall. When the LOVE BANK is almost empty the relationship begins to dissolve leading to separation and eventually divorce unless the couple gets help in resolving their difficulties. Earlier this year I participated in a seminar by John Gottman, Ph.D author of many books on marital and relationship theory and therapy. Using 10 of the relationship/marital scales Dr Gottman gave us at that workshop I constructed a RELATIONSHIP BALANCE SCALE that can be easily administered and scored with a 100 point range, i.e, 0-100. The RELATIONSHIP BALANCE SCALE correlates in a sample of 32 clients (married or living together for 1 year or more, though mostly married) .92 with a RELATIONSHIP HAPPINESS scale. The likelihood of this being a chance occurrence is 1 in 10,000. The RELATIONSHIP BALANCE SCALE also correlates .91 with a relationship affection subscale, .90 with a relationship communication subscale, .87 with a relationship cohesion subscale and .76 with a lack of negativity in the relationship subscale. The RELATIONSHIP BALANCE SCALE consists of 5 relationship scales that are positive and 5 relationship scales that are negative. Functionally, you can say that the LOVE BANK is equivalent to the RELATIONSHIP BALANCE SCALE score. Happily relating couples have an average RELATIONSHIP BALANCE SCALE score of 88 out of 100, unhappily relating couples that are living together have an average RELATIONSHIP BALANCE SCALE score of 51 out of 100 and unhappily relating couples that are separated have a RELATIONSHIP BALANCE SCALE score of 35 out of a 100. The 2 unhappily relating groups of couples together have a RELATIONSHIP BALANCE SCALE score of 44. The likelihood of this being a chance occurrence is 1 in 10000. The 5 scales that comprise the POSITIVE RELATIONSHIP BALANCE SCALE index are : TURNING (toward your partner); REPAIR (efforts); FONDNESS; ACCEPTING INFLUENCE (from your partner) and COMPROMISE (willing to engage in). The 5 scales that comprise the NEGATIVE RELATIONSHIP BALANCE scale index are: START-UP (harsh); NEGATIVE PERSPECTIVE; GRIDLOCK; EMOTIONAL DISENGAGEMENT; and the FOUR HORSEMAN (a measure of CONTEMPT, CRITICISM, DEFENSIVENESS AND STONEWALLING). In my work, the RELATIONSHIP BALANCE SCALE can be seen as a complement for couples to the COGNITIVE BALANCE AND AFFECTIVE BALANCE scale measures I use for individuals. (See http://www.integrativehelp.com/books_tapes.html and http://www.integrativehelp.com/healing_techniques.html#graphs for more information on these scales) INTEGRATIVE MARITAL AND RELATIONSHIP THERAPY AND HEALING helps couples shift their focus to a positive attitude and perspective and also helps them accept responsibility for being both a part of the problem and part of the solution. During these sessions couples learn skills and attitudes regarding self-soothing, listening, staying emotionally connected, appreciation and gratitude, forgiveness, turning towards one’s partner, accepting influence, developing repair efforts and generating and finding mutually beneficial solutions to one’s problems. This process helps couples to greatly increase deposits into the LOVE BANK, decrease withdrawals and greatly enhance their RELATIONSHIP BALANCE scale score. INTEGRATIVE HEALING SESSION with couples always help them focus on making INTEGRATIVE SHIFTS in the relationship just as individual sessions help people make INTEGRATIVE SHIFTS in their consciousness, attitudes, beliefs, perceptions, feelings and behavior patterns. WORKSHOPS AND SEMINARS A) This Saturday from 1:00 to 5:00 P.M. the Foundation for Well-Being and Energy and Spiritual Healing in Plymouth Meeting, Pa. is holding a professional study group and its annual holiday party. The featured presenters will be John Diepold, Ph.D who will show a videotape and discuss his recent work on Evolving Thought Field Therapy and Sandi and Bob Radomski who will demonstrate some of their newest energy tools. Contact me (Phil Friedman) at 610-828-4674 or email me at integrativehelp@aol.com for more information. B) If you would like to co-sponsor a 2 or 3 day workshop on INTEGRATIVE HEALING: FACILITATING HEALING SHIFTS IN CONSCIOUSNESS, PERCEPTIONS, BELIEFS, ENERGY AND BEHAVIOR email me at integrativehelp@home.com or email integrativehelp@aol.com or call 610-828-4674. This workshop will focus on the power of INTEGRATIVE HEALING SHIFTS that utilize client strengths to catalyze change. During the workshop I will demonstrate and teach 6 of my POWERFUL HEALING TECHNIQUES including: ACT (renamed the ACTIVE CHOICE TECHNIQUE); CART (CREATING AND RECEIVING TECHNIQUE) MATT (renamed the MIRACLE ACTIVATION TRIGGER TECHNIQUE); TASTE (renamed the TRIGGER AND SOFT TOUCH TECHNIQUE); HEART (HEALING AND RELEASE TECHNIQUE); the FORGIVENESS PROCESS and LIGHT (LIGHT IMAGERY GRATEFUL HEART TECHNIQUE). See my website at: http://www.integrativehelp.com/healing_techniques.html for descriptions of MATT; ACT; TASTE; HEART, the FORGIVENESS PROCESS AND LIGHT. The workshop will also compare these techniques with other well known and related techniques in the field. (see my website on healing techniques). The workshop will also allow participants to learn about the 24 CORE STRENGTHS described by the field of POSITIVE PSYCHOLOGY and to begin to identify their own and their clients strengths. The workshop will also teach participants how to empirically track change in their clients using the Friedman Well-Being, Affect, Belief, Quality of Life and Personal/Spiritual Growth Scales and how to use that information therapeutically to catalyze and enhance change. In addition you will be able to demonstrate outcomes to organizations and agencies that may value your work more from seeing these specific results. In this workshop you will also learn about my INTEGRATIVE META-MODEL. This workshop will be both didactic and experiential and will offer APA-CE credits for psychologists. CEU credits may be available for other professions as well. Copyright (c) 2001, all rights reserved. Permission is granted to copy or distribute the Integrative Healing: Energy and Spiritual Therapy, Coaching and Well-Being Newsletter so long as this copyright notice and full information about contacting the author is attached. The author of this newsletter is Philip H. Friedman, Ph.D. Contact him by email at: integrativehelp@home.com or integrativehelp@aol.com or for integrative life coaching or integrative therapy send an email to Coachwell1@home.com or Coachwell1@aol.com or call 1-610-828-4674. Please do not post or list this information on any web site or other source without permission of the author.